If you have recently gone through a relationship breakup, you may feel as if you will never recover and move on. While your heart may not heal as quickly as you would like, there are things you can do that will help you feel better and head in the right direction. Just as you would find in any difficult situation where you lose someone, there will be a grieving process and in order to truly move on and be healthy, you are going to have to move through each of the steps at your own pace. Begin by taking action, which may seem like the most difficult thing in the world. After a healthy amount of time feeling angry and sad, make an effort to change how you are feeling. If you are living in a space you shared with the person, or you have a number of their items in your personal space, get the things out as soon as possible. If giving the items back to the person is not immediately possible, move the items to storage. If you need a great deal of space; consider using a 3PL or public warehouse. Each will provide you with the space you need to begin moving on.
Maybe all you need to break out of your rut is an official chance to say goodbye to your relationship. Sometimes when relationships end, the finale is one-sided. You may be too emotionally distraught to realize what is happening at the time. Once you have had time to think things through, you may realize there are things you would have liked to have said. Creating a ceremony following a breakup gives you a chance to do so without repercussions. You can put your thoughts on paper and then rip up or burn what you have written. The important thing is getting them out. At the same time, take the various items you have accumulated throughout the relationship and burn those things too. If you are uncomfortable getting rid of everything, save one thing and pack it away for when you are experiencing less pain.
When the time comes to move forward with your life, you have a variety of things you can do to create a sense of purpose. Consider enrolling in classes and learning something new. Putting your focus on something else is a great way to heal a broken heart.
If you lack the funds or the motivation to attend a class, consider beginning a new hobby. This way you can commit as much time as you want to the hobby without having to worry about attending a class. You can also control how much money you invest in the hobby, even though many people go all out and start a new hobby with enthusiasm that hits their wallet hard.
Finally, schedule some quality time with friends. If you have spent time in a relationship, chances are good you were not focusing on your non-romantic relationships as much as you could. If you use your newly found free time to reconnect with friends, they will help you get through your recent breakup.
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